Good Enough.


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My whole life I was never good enough.

You always wanted me to be wiser, prettier, livelier, quieter, funnier, sweeter, quicker, wittier, lovelier, fatter, thinner, taller, stronger, calmer, thriftier, bigger, louder, richer, sexier, smarter.

I am never good enough for you.

Is this an Asian thing? Where putting someone down is deemed good education, so that we do not get too certain of ourselves? We are often obligated to say “I am humbled…I don’t deserve this…I am so blessed…I am so grateful…”. Until these words no longer mean a thing.

One day if I am a parent, a teacher, a leader, a friend, a wife, a partner, I will tell you, you may not be good enough. But you are good enough for me. I just want you to be happy.

Don’t apologize for who you are and how you work.

We only have one life. Celebrate it. Please.


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the man(ipulator)

You twist my words and made them into weapons to set me against my people. You conniving little one, planting seeds of doubt when I’m at my most vulnerable; you sow discord disguised as good will. You are a poison.

We are made to be more.

“If you only do what you can do, you’ll never be more than what you are now.”

“I don’t wanna be more. I like who I am!”

“You don’t even know who you are.”

What if we realise that we are made to be exceptional, to be victorious, to be conquerors even after failing million times over? What would become of us?

Paralysing self-doubt

When self-doubt paralyzes you, you question whether you actually mean anything to anyone. And when you finally come to terms that you don’t, do you then decide that it’s not worth trying anymore?

Freedom of speech = Free to speak?

You try to be tactful but you risk downplaying the situation; you end up euphemising issues. You try to be sensitive but end up being passive aggressive.

We are given the freedom of speech, but we cannot freely speak.


You don’t want people to think they have you all figured out.

You want to be dependable and faithful but you don’t want to be predictable.

You want to be flexible and adaptable but you don’t want to be indecisive.

You want to be open-minded and balanced in your perspectives but you don’t want to risk being contradictory.

You want to maintain your cool and composure but you don’t want to seem too laidback.

How are you drawing your boundaries?

Train your mind to see the good in everything


When you are trained and conditioned to spot mistakes in your students’ sentence structures, spelling, content relevance, behaviour, attitude, attire (…the list goes on) every single day, there is a tendency to forget that there are more to them. I am guilty of pedantically focusing too much on my students’ language abilities and their attire at times.
At other times, it feels completely justifiable because some people are just evidently irresponsible, imcompetent, immature etc… It’s so easy then, to perceive and treat them as a summation of their faults and bad qualities.
This serves as a reminder for me every single day – to see the good in SEEMINGLY incorrigible people and in seemingly horrible situations. And to notice the good even in myself.


We are afraid to be seen alone because it might give the impression that we are lonely losers. The phone and ear pieces come in handy at this point – a false fortress we build to guard against our own insecurities. “Hey I still have friends, look, I have so much to do over social media! I’m not lonely!” as we gobble down our food, avoiding eye contact because we fear looking into the eyes of pity.

Perhaps we are actually more afraid of the thoughts in our own mind, for they are scarier than the labels people put on us. Our thoughts that delude us into believing that being alone equates to loneliness. Our thoughts that delude us into believing that people are judging our loneliness when in fact, no one even cares.