When you are trained and conditioned to spot mistakes in your students’ sentence structures, spelling, content relevance, behaviour, attitude, attire (…the list goes on) every single day, there is a tendency to forget that there are more to them. I am guilty of pedantically focusing too much on my students’ language abilities and their attire at times.
At other times, it feels completely justifiable because some people are just evidently irresponsible, imcompetent, immature etc… It’s so easy then, to perceive and treat them as a summation of their faults and bad qualities.
This serves as a reminder for me every single day – to see the good in SEEMINGLY incorrigible people and in seemingly horrible situations. And to notice the good even in myself.
We are afraid to be seen alone because it might give the impression that we are lonely losers. The phone and ear pieces come in handy at this point – a false fortress we build to guard against our own insecurities. “Hey I still have friends, look, I have so much to do over social media! I’m not lonely!” as we gobble down our food, avoiding eye contact because we fear looking into the eyes of pity.
Perhaps we are actually more afraid of the thoughts in our own mind, for they are scarier than the labels people put on us. Our thoughts that delude us into believing that being alone equates to loneliness. Our thoughts that delude us into believing that people are judging our loneliness when in fact, no one even cares.
You say I’m uptight but it’s from the noose you have tightened around my neck with your callous words.